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Comment on What is love? by Barbara

Barbara — Wed, 05 Jun 2013 02:22:24 +0000

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Comment on Your happiness and acceptance is dependent upon you, not someone else. by cockdoll

cockdoll — Sun, 21 Apr 2013 01:01:28 +0000

Gardnsun
Thank you:) Wishing you warmth.
~cockdoll

Comment on Dominant/submissive relationships are not above the law. by cockdoll

cockdoll — Sun, 21 Apr 2013 01:01:06 +0000

JAM
Thank you so much for your words, I do appreciate you taking time to share. And I agree with what you have posted. I do believe there must be a reverse to such a disorder for I have witnessed it as well. I have often said both to myself and aloud that “just because you can” does not mean you should.

Again thank you. Wishing you well.
~cockdoll

Comment on Dominant/submissive relationships are not above the law. by cockdoll

cockdoll — Sun, 21 Apr 2013 00:57:38 +0000

Hello and thank you for stopping by. I appreciate your sentiments and conquer with what you have shared. Sincerely, a thoughtful comment. Wishing you the best.
~cockdoll

Comment on Dominant/submissive relationships are not above the law. by Vipererouge

Vipererouge — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 22:00:53 +0000

I agree with the post and the comments. I will add that the ‘understanding’ is the core and rationality is its bedfellow. It is all fun and games till somebody gets hurt or more to the point, decides to be. On a very practical level, hurting people is BS. Playing is a different thing entirely. The vast area of greyness between is the subject of negotiation. I doubt the talk is ever enough. In my experience it is a try and feel, check and keep thinking. The latter is the responsibility of the dominant, in my opinion. Considering the issue under discussion, this seems most correct. Virtually every submissive that I have ever seriously been involved with has been female, above average intelligence and highly sexual. What has worked for me is care, thoughtfulness and ‘making sure’ afterwards and during. You can call it play if you like, I do not think of it that way honestly. There is no pretense in it for me. I mean it every time. The point is that the women that I have known did not tolerate stupid and would never even consider an ignorant dom. The burden of thinking and working with your submissive’s desires can mean saying no. This can be the most loving thing you can do. You want to be in charge? You want to be in control? Prove worthy of it. Trust me on this, if you doubt every other thing I am saying. Women of all flavors and gender preferences will test you. They will test you over and over again. As a dom you have to think more, you have to have more self control and you have to protect your submissive with even more attention than any vanilla relationship can imagine. The blog posting is right on with respect to the law, I guess I am taking into the grey area more because that is a very vital and important thing to get right. If you ‘get that right’ there should be no question of going over the line. If I have offended anyone with my comments I assure you it is unintentional.

Comment on Dominant/submissive relationships are not above the law. by JAM (just another master)

JAM (just another master) — Sat, 23 Feb 2013 16:44:58 +0000

On target. I value the openness and acceptance of the BDSM community regarding predilection, body type and chosen dynamic but as with any philosophy or morality, the challenge and the breakdown is in the extremes. There is a right and wrong. I say that without qualification specifically because that openness and acceptance can be twisted to mean abuse and a kind of control that borders on psychosis. I wonder it there isn’t some sort of psychological condition that might be called reverse Munchausen-by-proxy. In other words, going along with the demands (or needs !) of another against desire. I believe I have seen this in certain people. The why and cause are beyond me, but taking control of your life and actively deciding your life is not negotiable. Here is the break point in the driving ‘thought process’ of (insert acronym here). Unfortunately, and this is a huge IF, BUT and MAYBE – real world relationships involve constantly going back, constantly renegotiating and constantly re-assessing because relationships involve people and we change. We learn about ourselves. We become aware of consequences (very, very important) and as a result we come to the conclusion expressed in Elliot’s Wasteland “that is not what I meant, that is not what I meant at all …” The right, the absolute right to withdraw, decline and more importantly leave is absolute. Now you have the central problem of an open morality and that is how to act, whether to act and whether to interfere. It is all well and good to pronounce a disembodied morality or ‘right’ (which I agree with), but now put it in real world terms. Should a person act to assist? What are the responsibilities and the extent of responsibilities for the person who has taken possession? ‘Yes sir, you may run with my scissors’ is not reasonable.

Comment on Your happiness and acceptance is dependent upon you, not someone else. by Gardnsun

Gardnsun — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 05:00:22 +0000

” Accept yourself. Love yourself. If you do that, if you embrace who you are, if you find peace with who you are that is when you will find happiness, that is when you will be free and can learn to tolerate others as well.”
Well said! Eloquent.