All one has to do is learn another lan­guage to under­stand how simplistic and nar­row the English lan­guage is.  Please do not mis­taken my sen­ti­ment to mean that the English lan­guage is easy to learn, on the con­trary.  Anyone I have ever met who has had to learn my nat­ive tongue as a second lan­guage often speaks of its dif­fi­culties and com­plic­a­tions and I can not help but agree.  The English lan­guage is full of dis­crep­an­cies not to men­tion irra­tional reas­ons for how a word is spelled, take the word “knife” for instance,  need I say more?  But it is neither of those two annoy­ances which brings me frus­tra­tion, rather, it is the lack of words in which my lan­guage contains.

In English we have only one word for love: Love.  Now the word love can be used as a noun, a plural noun and even a verb; how­ever, it is still one word, one word to describe so many dif­fer­ent sen­sa­tions, so many dif­fer­ent levels of affection.

• strong affec­tion for another arising out of kin­ship or per­sonal ties<maternal love for a child>
• attrac­tion based on sexual desire: affec­tion and ten­der­ness felt by lovers
• affec­tion based on admir­a­tion, bene­vol­ence, or com­mon interests<love for his old schoolmates>
• an assur­ance of love<give her my love>
• warm attach­ment, enthu­si­asm, or devotion<love of the sea>
  
• the object of attach­ment, devo­tion, or admiration<baseball was his first love>
• unselfish loyal and bene­vol­ent con­cern for the good of another as in fath­erly con­cern of God for human­kind; broth­erly con­cern for oth­ers; a per­sons ador­a­tion of God

In Spanish, the word love is both a noun and a verb; how­ever, there are a min­imum of four dif­fer­ent words all which mean love but in vary­ing degrees and per­tain­ing to spe­cific people/objects.

• amar(to love, to love romantic­ally): Te amo. (Translation: I love you.)
• encantar(indicating strong like): Me encanto escribir. (Translation: I love to write.)
• gustar mucho(indicating strong like): Me gusta mucho este sofa. (Translation: I love this sofa.)
• querer(to love romantic­ally, to want): Te quiero. (Translation: I love you.)

I know from all Master has told me that in German there are numer­ous ways of express­ing love, all with a dif­fer­ent word, all express­ing dif­fer­ent sen­ti­ments and I have also been told by my friend Tin that in Punjabi, the words a mother would use to her child when express­ing love is dif­fer­ent from the words a hus­band would express to a wife or the love of an object — each feel­ing has its own word to identify exactly what kind of love is being felt.  I must con­fess that when I was typ­ing the defin­i­tions of the word love I found myself rather sur­prised at how gen­eric the defin­i­tions are  as it seems to cover a great deal of mean­ings and affections.

Sometimes I believe it is because of our lack of words that people often mis­un­der­stand what a per­son is mean­ing, why com­mu­nic­a­tion is some­times lost in trans­la­tion and we find ourselves uncer­tain with what a per­son wants and or desires.  My thoughts on my lan­guage were not ran­dom, rather they were spurred by a few com­ments Master has made over the last couple of days regard­ing his impres­sion of what it means to feel little, of what it means to  be in a  little girl / daddy role play , of what it means to be in a little girl / daddy rela­tion­ship.  From all Master shared with me, he was under the impres­sion that the little girl / daddy  rela­tion­ship (role play) stemmed from the girl actu­ally being small in stature, being petite and that those fantas­ies, those desires could only be ful­filled when the woman was tiny in phys­ical shape.  Now I do not believe Master is the only per­son who shares in those thoughts, just as I am cer­tain that there are many people who only role play or par­ti­cip­ate in “little girl” scen­arios with short, petite women; how­ever, from my own per­sonal exper­i­ence and from speak­ing with oth­ers as well as my edu­ca­tion I would believe that the idea of “lit­tle­ness” is not so much phys­ical as it is mental.

And I think my defin­i­tion, my view point var­ies from Master simply because the English lan­guage does not offer many altern­at­ives for describ­ing our feel­ings.  When I looked up the defin­i­tion to little I was, once again sur­prised, because there have been many times I have made the state­ment, “Master that makes me feel very little” yet the defin­i­tions of little do not cor­res­pond to how I was feel­ing, rather it was the closest thing I could think of.  After dis­sect­ing my feel­ings as well as  the Merriam-Webster dic­tion­ary,  I believe a bet­ter term would be help­less­ness although that word is not com­pletely accur­ate either.

I also think it is incred­ibly hard to find an accur­ate word for a per­sons desires, feel­ings, lusts with regards to the whole “little girl” situ­ation because every­one appears to have an indi­vidual response to such an exper­i­ence.  For those who role play the little girl fantas­ies I would think many desire a small woman, someone who resembles a child or young teen for that can be part of the fet­ish.  With that said I know many women who vary greatly in body shape and height and are very act­ive in such exchanges.

I am guess­ing, not attempt­ing to make a fac­tual state­ment, but I believe there are dif­fer­ences between role play­ing the “little girl” beha­viour and liv­ing a rela­tion­ship where “little girl” beha­viours are present through­out all exchanges includ­ing titles, (Dominant = Daddy, sub­missive or slave = little girl or daugh­ter).  Role play­ing is some­thing for­eign to me as I have only par­ti­cip­ated in such an activ­ity once and  I found myself gig­gling through­out the entire scene.  I also do not role play with Master for he told me very early on in our rela­tion­ship that he simply does not under­stand the reason behind it, there is no act­ing (for a lack of a bet­ter words) in his exchanges, all he shares, all he expresses is real and there is no need for false dia­logue.  This does not mean that either of us judge those who role play, to each his/her own, it simply means that we do not under­stand that exchange.

But I digress.

With role play­ing I would think that size, both height and weight might  play an import­ant role with ensur­ing the fantasy is executed to ones lik­ing; how­ever, an ongo­ing exchange of feel­ing “little girl” with a dom­in­ant might not have as much to do with size as it does with atti­tude, with a per­sons innate feel­ing and expres­sion.  I know many who like to dress up in the school girl uni­form, who enjoy act­ing rebel­li­ous, be given a spank­ing only to return to every day life without feel­ing like a little girl.  I also know many who do not dress up at all, who do not put pig tails in their hair and yet they call their loved one Daddy and very much feel “little” when con­vers­ing, when being intim­ate, even when shopping.

I think where the con­fu­sion comes from for my Master as well as oth­ers I have recently spoken with, has to do with our lan­guage and the fact that there simply are not enough words to adequately describe emo­tions.  The term little seems to be com­mon in this world of kink and yet my defin­i­tion of little most cer­tainly var­ies from the next, includ­ing the dic­tion­ary.  And I think therein lies another prob­lem, the fact that because we lack ter­min­o­logy we as a soci­ety have made up our own defin­i­tions to suit ourselves, to help us explain beha­viours and feelings.

I know that in the past I have used the word little to describe my lack of con­trol; how­ever, the two do not equate and I think for me, that real­isa­tion finally sunk in just last night when Master and I were speak­ing about a par­tic­u­lar response I had to some­thing Master had done both earlier in the week and that very night.  My reac­tion spurred the com­ment from Master of  me not lik­ing to feel little and for some reason his words did not con­nect.  I did not feel little at all but I did feel help­less and over powered and although I can see how people would relate those sen­sa­tions to being little, I did not.  Now in the past I might have but because I had been con­tem­plat­ing ter­min­o­logy, the word little did not asso­ci­ate to me as I am not little.

When I think of the word little I think short, I think petite, I think small as well as young and I am not any of those.  Now I can under­stand people asso­ci­at­ing feel­ings to those they felt when a child, espe­cially feel­ings of help­less­ness but then wouldn’t it be more accur­ate to say “I am feel­ing help­less, I am feel­ing a loss of con­trol, I am feel­ing as I did when I was a child” rather than say­ing little?  And please do not mis­un­der­stand, I do not believe this is a case of semantics nor do I think any­one is wrong for mak­ing the state­ment “I feel little”.  We all have our own ver­nacu­lar; how­ever, the real­ity is we often use words out of con­text and I believe the term little is one of them.

My words are not law, nor would I want them to be. I am not here to change oth­ers views; how­ever, I do believe that if we under­stand our lan­guage just a little bet­ter we all will be able to com­mu­nic­ate more effect­ively there­fore ensur­ing all desires, all wants are reached.  The ini­tial les­son from this week was about using proper ter­min­o­logy; how­ever,  if I really sit back and think about it, there is a greater les­son within that and it has to do with ask­ing for what I want and you really can not have one without the other.

*defin­i­tions from Merriam-Webster dictionary