Comments on: Back to the slave basics.

By: slave

slave — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 21:43:57 +0000

Rio,
my apologies for such a tardy reply, I was away on holidays. Thank you for your words. I too agree, a little bit of humble pie is in order.

~His

By: slave

slave — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 21:43:23 +0000

Master Of Venice,
my apologies for such a tardy response to your message, I have been out of town. I thank you for your views. I have found that I have read and re-read your words taking comfort in them. I do so appreciate your thoughtfulness in sharing all that you do.

~His

By: Master Of Venice

Master Of Venice — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 20:47:17 +0000

What we do in a M/s environment is constructed out of our desires, our chosen roles. What is commonplace in the world, the ‘vanilla relationship,’ surrounds us at every turn, from our childhood through adult life. If you had grown up in chains, been passed or sold as property, then slavehood would be natural to you. However, real slavery is not fun or for the benefit of the slave. Its not the way we do things anymore (at least in this culture.) Thankfully, BDSM slavery is a lifestyle choice and we strive to fold it into the normal human biological and social urges to couple and bond. It is ‘of’ that process, but also sometimes maddeningly divorced from it.

Bottom line: it isn’t easy, especially when as individuals we have to retain and nurture self-esteem in order to function in this world (even as slaves.) It seems almost impossible sometimes to reconcile the two impulses. Yes, what we are doing is an elaborate game, where we can pull the plug or head for the door if we wish. But it also is genuine, heartfelt and honest. As long as one proceeds with that in mind, the balance can be regained, can always be re-aligned. Does that mean that as a slave (or Master) one will never roll one’s eyes? Nope. Does it mean that we will always feel the same way in a relationship, always feel the same exciting ‘newness’ as when we first serve or own? Again, no. We will change. There is no stopping that. Instead, celebrate your position along the path of slavery.

By: Rio

Rio — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 20:40:23 +0000

I agree with divine, time to take a step back and humble yourself.

By: slave

slave — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 12:49:24 +0000

silver,
Thank you for your words, for your support, I do appreciate them. I take comfort in knowing I am not the only person who experiences such emotions, that I am not alone in my thoughts and actions.

And you are right, patience with myself is by far the hardest to have.

~His

By: slave

slave — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 12:46:57 +0000

divine,
I believe you made a rather valid point. When Master and I first resided under the same roof, I basically was getting to know him for the first time and I felt nervous, excited and eager to learn and please and I also was uncertain as to how Master would respond to my daily activities and responses. As time has passed I am more comfortable with him, which I believe is a good thing but it also might lead to me feeling like a girl friend more than a slave. I do appreciate your view and you have given me food for thought.

Thank you for your words divine. Thank you for reading.

~His

By: silver

silver — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 15:53:11 +0000

I didn’t want to be the first to comment on this, but I couldn’t keep silent either. I am a slave too, and much like you, I have had to reevaluate why I’m doing what I’m doing. I’ve had to go back and find, or be reminded, of what’s actually important. It’s a hard, hard lesson to learn (again).

I know you’ll be able to find what you need because you really do love your Master.

I wish you luck, above all else, and the patience to take the time to find what you need. Having patience with yourself is often the hardest task…

Sincerely,

silver