Heterosexual men are sexy.
I realise that the word heterosexual is so rarely used and even rarer when I speak with people involved in kink. The reality, for me, is that I am only sexually attracted to heterosexual men. In fact, I have no desire, no lust, no sexual attraction to men who are attracted to men, who wish to sexually experiment with men or who are attracted to individuals who have both breasts as well as a penis.
I have been hesitant to speak openly about my desires because I have experienced backlash from some individuals who have called me prejudice, have labelled me as a “hater” with regards to people who identify as gay or lesbian or bisexual or pan sexual or merely sexually curious. I have even experienced both males and females telling me I am a hypocrite because I have some sexual fantasies about me exploring with another female. My sexual attraction to a heterosexual male has nothing to do with what I wish to sexually experience myself, rather it is about what I find sexually attractive in a man. My lust for a heterosexual man is no different than my sexual attraction to men who are tall, men who are athletic, men who are dominant. We all have preferences and we as a society have worked hard to ensure our preferences are accepted and yet I have received negative feedback for my preference.
I look at my sexual attraction to heterosexual men to be no different than my sexual attraction to a man who is dominant. In a recent conversation with Master I tried to explain to him that should he engage in a sexual and or kink context with a person who was born a man (as in gender male) but has had surgery to create breasts and identifies as female, I would be turned off by said interaction and I would look at Master differently. Master was, to say the least, shocked by my response especially since he has stated many times throughout our relationship that he is fascinated by “women with cocks” (his words). Truly Master should not have been shocked as I have told him, repeatedly, that I find it unattractive to think of him being with a woman who also has a cock; however, I believe it was the added part of, “and I am not certain our relationship would last” that really caused him to pause.
Master engaging in a sexual or kink context with a woman who has a cock is equivalent to Master submitting to another person. At least to me it is and the reality is I would not desire to be Masters’ slave if he were submissive to another, if he were to submit to another. Just like I am sexually attracted to heterosexual men I am only sexually attracted to men who are dominant, at least that is what I have discovered thus far throughout my 37 year long journey. I am not certain if my explanation helped Master better understand my desires; however, I hope it did for I would not want confusion between us, especially over something as important as this.
Sexuality, from my experience, is a rather sensitive topic and many people have taken great offence to my words, my feelings, my opinion. I am not sure where the animosity stems from especially since I do not now nor have I ever stated that people of alternate sexualities from mine are less than me, not as important or wrong. I do not judge another persons sexuality, to each his and her own. I do not have anger or dislike for people who are bisexual, pan sexual, anything sexual, in fact sexuality is not a factor for me when having a connection with someone, when having a friendship with someone. When it comes to sexuality I believe it is important for people to be honest with what he or she desires and to be true to him and herself and I have believed that for many, many years; for as long as I can remember in fact.
Sexual attraction is individual. We all have our own tastes and desires and I rarely find two people who have identical sexual tastes. Sexual attraction (and it feels odd to say this as I want to believe everyone will understand and yet I have been burned by not being specific so I shall say it now) is not the same as attraction in general. For instance I can find someone beautiful and or handsome, I can find a persons’ personality attractive, a persons’ heart attractive and not be sexually attracted to them — they are very, very different to me. They can overlap and hopefully for most people they do because complete attraction to me is ideal but it does not always have to. For instance, I do not have to have sexual attraction for friends, truthfully I do not want sexual attraction for friends but I am attracted to my friends, merely on a different level, in different ways.
Beautiful people come in all shapes, sizes, colours, ages and genders. I am not discussing beauty though, I am discussing sexual attraction, more specifically I am discussing who I am sexually attracted to and when it comes to men I am sexually attracted to dominant heterosexual naturally born men. I am attracted to dominant men who are attracted to naturally born, 100% XX chromosomal, breast baring, cunt defining women and there is no shame in what I desire, what I am sexually attracted to.
I have always protested, marched and verbally fought for peoples rights to love who they wish to love, to experiment, interact, engage in whomever he or she wishes to be with and that includes myself.*
Diversity is the spice of life. All diversity, even my heterosexual attractions.
~His
*The only exception to this perspective is when children are involved. Under no circumstances do I ever believe it is okay to be involved in a sexual relationship with a child.
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Wednesday,September 1,2010 at 6:19 pm Comments (0)
